Say It To Someone Who Hears You!

“If you’re saying it to people who don’t hear you, you’re saying it to the wrong people,” as I like to say! So, say it to someone who hears you. When I say “hear” I mean, of course, ‘understands you.’

Your great ideas should not fall on deaf ears, neither should you walk away feeling bad from sharing your ideas with someone because of ambivalent feedback. Certainly, if someone gives you that “are you nuts?!?” wince on their face when you are talking to them, then say it to someone who hears you.

If you can’t find anyone to ‘say it to someone who hears you,’ then it’s time to find new friends or a new support network. That might sound harsh but it’s the reality of success. Think about it not so much as loosing friends but gaining new opportunities and horizons; think about it as growth. I’m not talking about random, regular ideas here but your dreams and goals and your ideas for success! Potentially life-changing decisions!

When you speak about your future goals and that burning desire within you to accomplish something then that energy should be met with equal and opposite energy back to you in the form of support. That energy can also come back to you in terms of constructive criticism, but always with an underlying tone of support and encouragement. An intelligent mind does not shy away from critique. It’s process and product flowing together.

Your ground-breaking ideas should be planted in a vibrant, nurturing, life-giving soil. Say it to someone who hears you.

I remember years ago after I graduated high school my mother told me: “you’re either in college full time or working full time, no exceptions!” What she meant was that if I wanted to continue to live under her roof I had to either be in school full time or get a full time job to support myself. If not, I was kicked out of the house. That may sound a bit harsh but it wasn’t, really because it impelled me to carefully think about what I wanted.

I decided I wanted to work full time. After about 2 years I got sick of the wage (although I was making pretty decent money) and watching my other friends start to finish up college. What really soaked the cat on this was seeing my coworkers who were perfectly comfortable working in this entry-level job for 20 plus years! When I talked about college to them and other working friends I had, they balked at the idea. Perhaps the topic of college was a sore spot with them, a reflection of their own missed opportunities, who knows.

Some of my friends back then supported me, others were trying to espouse their philosophy of ‘short term gain,’ that is, don’t think about your future earning potential with a college degree but only the relative safety that a current wage would bring. Well, I eventually found that the laws of economics were on MY side!

As a 20 year old I had a tough choice to make. Friends are eminently important at that age, the circle of social expectation is a powerful magnet on your decision making process at that age. Well good thing I had a hard head even back then. 🙂

As you might guess what happened, I basically lost a lot of friends in choosing to go back to college. Unfortunately, I had to choose between friends and my new idea, my new horizon, my new success.

“If you’re saying it to people who don’t hear you, you’re saying it to the wrong people,” as I like to say!

I was fortunate because I did have a few friends and family that supported my decision. Guess what? I went to school full time AND continued to work full time! I found the financial independence important for me, and it was a matter of pride for me to be able to pay my own tuition and way in life. This is just one of many of my own stories where ‘saying it to people who hear me’ has led me to successful decision making. Each time you do this you will start to build a pattern of success which will lead to successful trends in your life where you empower yourself to control your own destiny!

What’s your story? How can you share your story with someone to inspire them to positive action and to be a positive and supportive listener? When someone confides in you, take a moment to think how you react to them. Is this their big dream? Give them the space and respect to vet their ideas, to give those ideas life by speaking them.

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